OK -- so I am a pack rat. I admit it. There's just SOME function that each piece of junk (albeit "important" junk) serves or has the potential to serve, and thus I need to hold on to it, right? I mean, if I drop it off at my local Salvation Army or Goodwill store, they will sell it for only 50 cents to someone else just looking for a bargain and not really needing it. I can give it to Storehouse for Jesus, of course, but they are out of my way....
Interestingly enough (go figure), I don't have a house that is the Better Homes and Gardens/Martha Stewart showcase that so many, including me, want. I can remember my mom saying that my room (and house) should be kept in a state that I would be glad to welcome Jesus in to it. My smart aleck response was that if He walked into my house and saw it in pristine condition He would know that I had been spending too much time in the house and not enough time out doing His work! We all know that was a cop out answer, but it was also the honest truth.
Do I like my home being a clutter-filled mess? NO. Do I know how to get it uncluttered? Well, sort of. I at least know the principles behind it. I just can't ever seem to be able to successfully do it. I feel the desperate need to get it done, but can't find the time to follow after that desire. I keep telling myself that I am smart enough to be able to figure out a way for me to do it, and then I get depressed and defeated or beat myself up about reasons I can't seem to use my brilliance to actually DO it.
The list of excuses goes on and on...... hopefully now it is finally time for a real change....
I've been the recipient of FLYLady (
www.flylady.net) emails for quite a while (OK -- maybe even 2 years... I can't remember) now, and never really have caught on to her system. Marla (FLYLady herself) lives in Brevard, NC, oddly enough, and is an inspiration to an unbelievable number of people for whom her emails have literally changed their lives. Some are so devoted to her and her "Control Journal" that I wonder if she has a cult following! Anyway, she seeks to inspire people to have those clean and "pleasant-to-be-in" homes, and she does so through emails designed to motivate, convict, and move you to action. She has zones to clean (one per week), missions to do, and habits to create (one per month). This month's habit is decluttering for 15 minutes per day -- including weekends. I'm trying it this month...... hoping and praying that all those people who tout her system are right.
Oh, back to the habit to form -- the decluttering.... I'm thrilled to say that I have spent some time in the basement this past week decluttering some things, in fact, I've spent more than my 15 minutes per day, except for missing one day when I was not feeling well and was just worn out (so worn out that I really could not follow her "I-can-do-anything-for-15-minutes" mantra). Now, the declutterings don't
officially count in the world of FLYLady because the items are not actually
out of the house yet, but I'm working on it. I have plans to get the 18 (yes, 18) formal gowns that I decluttered first to the consignment shop to see if they want to take them, then to the mall for the YWCA prom dress collection. Any that they do not want I will throw away, I guess. My thought behind that is that if two places did not want them, likely Goodwill would not either! Of course, you never know what people want...... bell bottoms came back in style, even if only temporarily!!!! In addition to having the plans, I have someone who is going to ride me until I really DO get them there!
In addition, Darren and I are also moving things around in the basement (mainly Darren is doing the moving, which is then motivating me) so that we have a space for items that need to go out of the house. That too is divided up into donate and eBay sections. Now to get to the clearing out, as we discussed earlier.
Perhaps I should also mention that I cleared out another foot or so of clothing that I will take when I take the dresses to the consignment shop. Those more "business-y" pieces that they don't want I will donate to our Shugart Women's Center for their clothing distributions. This was done literally on a grab-what-you-know-can-go basis. I know I could get rid of more, but as I adjust to this new way of doing and thinking, let me go slowly.
So, why have I told you all this? Well, the next time you see me.... please don't ask what I have decluttered in case I haven't done it. I am not really wanting to face any disappointment of this failing again. At the same time, if you are reading this blog and want to encourage me by telling me how wonderful I am doing (so far I am planning to post every time I declutter), then feel free to do so. I guess I need to take pictures of the house so that I can actually see the progress. I bet I won't recognize the "before" shots once I get to the point that I can take the "after" ones.....